Welcome to the Dealing with Conflict Instrument

Instructions

Please read each pair of statements and check the answer that best fits you.
Even if you agree with both the A and B statements, you must choose one over the other.
(Generalize about your conflict behavior unless instructed to focus on a specific context).

1. I sometimes say yes when it would have been better to say no. I try to postpone confrontations until everyone has had a chance to cool down. 2. I transform conflicts by finding out what I have in common with the other party. I compete for what I want, and respect others who do, too. 3. I would rather just go halfway instead of fighting every inch of the way. I'd rather not get into a conflict in the first place. 4. If I can stay out of a conflict, I do. I listen to the other person's concerns, then suggest new and better alternatives. 5. I like to avoid lengthy negotiations by splitting the difference fairly. Some people might say I give in easily. 6. I try to create enough trust to turn conflict into cooperation. I prefer to compromise. 7. I stick up for my own interests. I feel that conflicts and disagreements are usually more trouble than they're worth. 8. I share information honestly and openly so we can work together on the problem. I don't like to waste time when a simple compromise is possible. 9. My priority is to maintain a good, long-term relationship. I feel that it is important to develop the skills needed to bargain effectively. 10. I am happy to go halfway as long as the other person does, too. When I think someone has an issue with me, I stay out of their way for a while. 11. I try to turn conflicts into cooperative problem-solving efforts. I believe that if someone is really determined, it's usually better to let them have their way. 12. I don't allow others to draw me into an argument. I try to accommodate other peoples' requirements. 13. I am willing to fight for something I believe in. When I disagree with someone, I try to propose a middle ground. 14. If I have sufficient power, I can easily resolve conflicts in my favor. I believe there are creative ways for everyone to get what they want. 15. I don't like to hurt anyone's feelings. I believe that by being careful and clever, I can negotiate a good deal. * Required Fields * First Name * Last Name Telephone Number * E-Mail Address     Choose your own User Name and Password for when you log in to your account. * User Name * Password * Verify Password